A few days ago while I was
attending Bible study, we were discussing
Ecclesiast 4: 9-12. And
although we were talking about a totally different topic still related to that passage,
verse 12 caught my attention in particular as being (in my opinion) one of the
keys to a successful marriage:
“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other
succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who
falls alone is in real trouble […] A person standing alone can be attacked and
defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better,
for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”
A couple where
both spouses are Christians has higher chances of standing compared to one
where only one is a Christian because you both cover each other spiritually and
can stand strong as a couple in spiritual warfare (yes this is a real thing…
Might post an article someday about it). When one spouse is weak the other can
pray and stand strong for the other and vice versa; a little bit like watching
a house: if one person is tired, falls asleep or missing his/her turn at
watching the house, the other person can cover for it. The second part spoke
more to me as having a marriage/ relationship centered on Christ: when things
will get rocky, both spouses will know where to run (in the presence of God)
and who to run to (God). They will seek counsel from people who can and will (hopefully)
direct them according to the Word of God. Having built a marriage on Christ
assures a household built on solid foundations (both spouses in agreement with
spiritual principles and acting accordingly, Matt 7:24) with the condition that both spouses are equally working
on having a successful and healthy marriage, committed to God and committed to
each other.
A Christ-centered and godly marriage does
not guarantee that things will run smoothly. If you think it does, I got breaking
news: you’re wrong. What it means however is that when things go wrong you know
in which direction to go. And that is why it is important to walk in the same
direction as mentioned in Amos 3:3.
“Can two people walk together without agreeing on the
direction?”
What this means is that either you will go in
one direction (one spouse pulling the other: towards God or away from God) or
you will walk in separate directions (which totally defeats the purpose of marriage). Marrying
a non-believer seems like a good idea in the moment and might even work on the
short run. But down the road, issues will arise especially if you are called to
go further in your walk with God: the distance of your spouse to God will be
echoed in your marriage as you grow closer to God.
So now what? Well you tell me! If
you are reading this, chances are you have already decided what your next step
will be but you are looking for clues, signs or what not to comfort you in your
decision. Marriage is a personal decision just like salvation: you marry
someone who is good for you and to you, not for the people giving their opinion
on who they think you should marry. Two things I will tell you however are: 1)
figure out what is the most important to you between a spouse and a godly spouse
and once you do, 2) pray. Leave it to God to be what He wants things to be without
getting too caught up in your feelings and/emotions because they can deceive
you.
Hope this helped.
Until next time,
xo
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