Just like a year is marked by different seasons, our lives too are marked by different seasons and each one of these seasons in an individual life is an opportunity to grow, reinvent him/herself and write a new story. With each season most of the time comes different people, each bringing something different, something we specifically need at that very moment they enter our lives. And even though some of those people are in our lives only for a season, we can't help but get attached to them: we get obsessed by the idea that maybe they will stay forever. We start making plans hoping they will stick around for a life time, only to witness months or years down the road things falling apart. In a little as few months or a years, our relationships with certain people that meant so much to us go from best friends or lovers to total strangers.
And of course we are hurt. of course we are heart broken and feel betrayed by those people we thought would be our forever. I have felt that way on so many occasions but this is only because we failed to acknowledge that some of those people were not meant to be around forever. There were times where I refused to let go of some people but eventually I had to because the more I was trying to hold on to them, the more things were falling apart and the more I was losing myself and my peace of mind. I couldn't afford that ...
Seasons come and go and so do seasonal people. No matter how bad you would like the summer to last all year long (speaking of us people living in the coldest places of the world), it's going to end and winter is going to come a some point. The same is true of seasonal people: once their season in your life is over, they will leave and no matter how hard you try to hold on to them, you will only delay their departure but won't prevent it.
One thing you have to understand is that it has nothing to do with you or the fact that you didn't do enough to keep them from leaving. They had a purpose to fulfill in your life. They did what they had to do and now they are just pursuing their path of life. You need to understand that some things in life are meant to happen but not to last. Whenever a friendship or a relationship ends it hurts; getting over it is a painful and heartbreaking process that is sometimes necessary for us to grow and start another season of our lives.
As a year new year is about to start (thus probably marking a new season in your life), I want you to realize through this last article of "The 7 Rules of Life" mini-series that not all the people you started your journey with will walk the walk with you. Some people are meant to enter our lives, mark it forever either by the value they add to it or by the lessons they teach us and just leave. And as hard as it can sometimes be, you need to be able to carry on with your life keeping close to your heart the good memories, the values they added to your life and the lessons learnt from their brief passage in your life.
I hope this mini-series theme did you good and that you found in it some helpful tools to carry on with life and make great things happen. I wish you a happy and blessed new year and may 2016 be the year you make your dreams come true because.
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