Pain is something natural that at a certain point in our
life we all get to experiment. Some people can be good at handling it some
other are not so great. I used to think that I was great at handling pain,
smiling to the face of the world while pretending that I was okay but I was
not. I used to think that crying or admitting that me being in pain especially
emotionally was a sign of weakness but it wasn’t. there is only so much you can
take and sometimes crying is a way to for you to say that you have tried to be
strong for so long and you are just exhausted. But in no case does is make you
be any less that what you are: a human being. Then I finally got to understand that it is totally okay to not be okay because life is not perfect and all pink: there are moment where reality is too harsh and pain can be difficult to suck in.
At some point in your life you have to come to the full
realization that there is a need for you to acknowledge the pain. You need to stop
hiding or running away from it and face it no matter how abrupt or intense it
can be. Life will always bring you pain: physically, emotionally, etc… life
will bring you pain under all its possible forms. You don’t get a say in that. When
it comes to the emotional pain you don’t get to choose if you get hurt or not:
we all eventually be hurt whether we want it or not. This is the sad and
somewhat harsh reality of life. However, you get to choose how you deal with
your pain, you get to choose who will have the privilege to be the author of
that pain. You get to pick the way you want to look at that pain and consider
it.
Most of the time, pain is associated with so much negativity
but there is actually another side to pain. Pain is there to remind you that
you are still alive. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t be able to feel that abrupt
pain that at time feels unbearable. Waking up everyday, putting one foot in
front of the other in spite of giving up is a reminder that you are still here
and you are making it alive. Each day is a miracle because you survive the pain
from the day before and you make it into another day; and as long as you keep on
doing it there is hope that one day you will be okay and that the pain you feel
today will one day be part of your past.
As far as I am concerned, reaching that point where I am okay is a work in progress for me. There are days where everything seems easier and there are days where pain hits me in the face and stabs me in the chest. But “that's the thing about pain: it demands to be felt”. I have learned to cope with it, keeping in mind that I could be okay today, tomorrow, in 3 weeks, in 1 month or in a year. It will take as long as it has to but eventually one day, I will be okay. And so will you. Until then take care of yourself and carry on to the best of your ability.